DAKAR, Senegal — Senegal’s Interior Ministry says a pupil has been killed as security forces clashed with college students protesting in the northern metropolis of St. Louis. Interior Minister Aly Ngouille Ndiaye says 20 others were wounded after the clashes broke out at Gaston Berger University. He says the research will be launched into the scholar’s death. The death has provoked anger throughout Senegal, with college students in the capital, Dakar, and the southern Casamance place blockading roads and burning tires. The students in St. Louis have been demonstrating after no longer receiving their month-to-month fees from the government. Tens of thousands of excessive-achieving college students in the West African country get hold of bills to help with faculty prices.
Student demonstrations are commonplace in Senegal; however, they rarely result in deaths.
Copyright 2018 The Associated Press. All rights reserved. This fabric might not be published, broadcast; I recently heard from a wife who was hurt by her husband’s constant comparisons between her and other women. Sometimes, he compared her to her sisters, friends, co-workers, or acquaintances. Other times, he compared her to strangers. She had been trying to ignore this for a while, but lately, it had been angering and grating on her so badly that it was very negatively affecting her marriage.
The wife said in part: “My husband compares me to everyone. And the comparisons are never favorable. I’m not as thin as my sister. I don’t make as much money as my coworker. I’m not as good of a mom as our neighbor. I’m not as good of a cook as his best friend’s wife. I’m not as good of a lover as his old girlfriend. It’s got to where I cringe anytime we pass or discuss another woman, and he goes to open his mouth. At first, I used to ignore him, but this is starting to happen and become much more hurtful. And it makes me so angry that I’m afraid that I’m going to snap back with something equally as nasty. How would he like it if I compared him to other men? I would never do this because it would hurt his feelings, and he’s my husband. But he doesn’t give me the same consideration. And when I call him on this, he says I’m too sensitive. It’s gotten to a point where he will openly stare at other women right in front of me. This is hurting my marriage, and I’m not sure how much longer I can take this. What do I do?”
After a little more clarification, it became apparent that the husband would make these comments, and the wife would withdraw and give him the cold shoulder for a short period of time afterward. Over time, she had learned that bringing this up would only make her husband accuse her of being oversensitive. And if she tried to snap back at him, he would become angry, and things would worsen. So instead, she would say nothing, and she would stew. This caused resentment and deteriorated their marriage. More and more, she’d been avoiding spending time with her husband because of this and other problems. So this was something that I felt had to be addressed and couldn’t be left in the hopes that it would just work itself out. In the following article, I’ll offer some tips on understanding why a husband may constantly compare you to other women and how to best deal with it.
Why A Husband Might Compare His Wife To Other Women: The wife could not understand why her husband would be doing this. He didn’t act this way when they were dating. It was only within the past five years or so that he had begun this type of behavior. There are various reasons that a husband might act this way. Sometimes, this is their passive-aggressive way of drawing your attention to something they wish was so. And, they may be saying it’s about your parenting skills or work ethic, but it is usually about something else completely. Many men criticize you for reasons that have nothing whatsoever to do with you. They are often trying to get your attention hoping that you will pay more attention to them or things at home (as unlikely that this might sound.) So they will often hit you with very low blows in an attempt to push your buttons to get a reaction.
Sometimes, a man’s comparison of you is really driven by his own lack of self-esteem or because of his own worries. Other times, a man will point out your perceived flaws because he is very aware of his own. Sometimes, when I speak with the men on the other side of this situation, it’s clear that they try to pull their wives down because they don’t feel that they deserve her. They secretly worry that if she knew how special she really was, she would leave him, so one way to make sure that this never happens is to point out her shortcomings. And sometimes, men react to stress by being critical of who is most convenient. I am not defending this behavior. I am just trying to let you know that you can be assured that these comparisons aren’t reflective of you if you are in this situation. They reflect him, and you have to decide if you want to change it, continue to live with it or remove yourself from it. (My recommendation is to attempt to change it if you can.)
